WHEN THE SAME TRIGGER KEEPS HAPPENING
You already know how to calm down—this shows you how to stop getting stuck in the same cycle.


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The Repeating Triggers Playbook for moms.

Same trigger, different day? This is the “what do I do in the moment” playbook for when your kid’s behavior hits a nerve and you can feel yourself about to spiral. Not fluffy. Not performative. Just practical steps that work when your nervous system is lit up.

$19 • Digital PDF Optional add-on: Trigger Library Cheat Sheet (+$7)
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Trigger Library Cheat Sheet — $7

A quick list of common repeat triggers + what they’re usually really about, so you can name it faster and respond cleaner.

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What’s inside

This isn’t a “read it once and hope for the best” PDF. It’s a moment-by-moment tool for when you feel yourself getting pulled into the same pattern… again.

Part 1 — Spot the pattern

  • Find your repeat triggers (the ones that hit the hardest).
  • Name what’s under the trigger (time pressure, disrespect, mess, noise, control, etc.).
  • Figure out your early warning signs so you can intervene sooner.

Part 2 — In the moment

  • A fast reset so you can respond without exploding or shutting down.
  • What to say when your brain is blank and your body is activated.
  • Boundary + connection scripts you can actually use in real life.

Part 3 — After the moment

  • Repair prompts for when you snapped (no shame spiral required).
  • How to reset the tone of the house without over-apologizing.
  • Re-connection steps that rebuild safety (for both of you).

Part 4 — Make it stop repeating

  • A “next time” plan so the scene doesn’t keep replaying.
  • One small support move that makes the biggest difference.
  • A quick check-in you can revisit whenever life gets loud again.
Real talk: this is for the mom who’s done “knowing better” and wants a plan she can actually use when she’s triggered and tired.

Ready to stop repeating the same fight with a different timestamp?

Grab the Playbook ($19). Add the Trigger Library Cheat Sheet (+$7) if you want the fast “name it and handle it” version for your most common triggers.

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