Hey, I’m Jess.

Here’s something you should know about me right away:
I don’t rush healing.

Not because it’s trendy.
Not because it sounds aligned.

But because your nervous system doesn’t respond to pressure—it responds to safety.

Most of the women who find me aren’t unaware.

You’re not clueless. You’re not lazy. You’re not “behind.”

You’re overwhelmed.

You’ve read the books.
Saved the posts.
Learned the scripts.

And then real life hits—kids melting down, relationships pulling, your body going into fight/flight/freeze—and suddenly all those tools feel inaccessible.

That’s not a mindset problem.

That’s capacity.

So I don’t sell fast transformation.
I don’t do urgency.
And I don’t confuse insight with integration.

I build support you can actually use when you’re activated—not just when you’re calm, regulated, and living in a fantasy morning routine.

A little about how I got here

I used to think “normal” meant pretending everything was fine until it f*cking shattered.

I learned the hard way that pretending heals nothing.

I grew up in a home where love and safety were unreliable. I learned to make myself small to survive. As an adult, that survival mode showed up as anxiety, people-pleasing, and a constant low hum of exhaustion.

Then I became a mom—and let’s be honest—the question “Am I ruining my kids?” became a nightly panic playlist on loop.

I tried doing more.
Reading more.
Fixing harder.

But productivity hacks and inspirational Instagram posts weren’t touching what was actually happening in my body.

So I started learning how my nervous system actually works.

I sat with grief and anger.
I set boundaries that felt terrifying—including cutting contact with a parent who did more harm than good.

I got certified. I kept learning. And slowly, I built a toolbox that helped me not just understand myself—but access support in real time.

That process didn’t make me perfect.

It made me less defensive.
Less reactive.
More present.

That’s what I help with now.

How my work is different (and why that matters)

I don’t believe more information is the answer.
I believe access is.

That’s why my work is layered:

orientation before commitment
containment before intensity
readiness before depth

This work is slow on purpose.

Relational on purpose.
Boundaried on purpose.

Because safety needs edges.
And healing that actually sticks doesn’t happen under pressure.

What I bring to the table

Lived experience
I’m not just a coach who read the books. I rebuilt my life while parenting, healing, and unlearning survival patterns in real time.

Training that matters
I’m a certified family life coach with ongoing education in nervous-system regulation and trauma-informed care.

Real tools for real days
Short nervous-system practices that fit into chaos.
Communication scripts that don’t gaslight you.
Boundary architecture you can actually use when emotions are high.

A no-BS approach
We’ll talk about feelings and structures.
Tenderness and accountability.
Compassion without sugarcoating.

Who I work with

I work with cycle-breakers.
Moms in recovery.
Women who are heart-deep in healing and tired of repeating the same old scripts.

If you’re exhausted from family patterns, wondering if you’re “too broken” to heal, or done being the family scapegoat—you’re in the right place.

If you want coaching that’s tender and tactical, faith-respecting but non-judgmental, and unapologetically human—I’m here.

I especially love working with women who want nervous-system tools they’ll actually use and who are raising kids to feel seen without losing themselves in the process.

Faith & healing (yes, it’s part of this)

My faith is woven through my work—not as a rulebook, but as a source of resilience and meaning.

I believe healing is holy work.
I also know faith doesn’t erase pain.

Grace shows up in the messy, stubborn, human process—not the Pinterest-perfect version of recovery.

A few things to know before you ask me for help

I’m not here to fix you. I’m here to help you relearn how to feel steady in your body and fierce with your boundaries.
I’ll call out patterns gently—and I’ll give you tools that actually move the needle.
You don’t need to have it together to start. You just need one willingness: to try something different.

If this page made you unclench, you’re probably in the right place.

If it made you feel frustrated or impatient—that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. It might just mean your nervous system isn’t ready yet. And that's okay!

Want to start small?

You can grab a free resource, listen to a podcast episode that’s basically an informal therapy session in 25 minutes, or reach out with your questions.

Real change starts with one honest conversation.