Let’s Get Real for a Second...
If you’ve ever found yourself lying in bed at night running through all the ways you could have been better that day—more patient, more present, more organized—then, first of all, same.
And second? It’s time to let that go.
Because this idea we have of a “good mom”—the one who never loses her cool, always knows the right thing to say, has the perfectly balanced life—is complete bullsh*t.
I said what I said.
And yet, we keep chasing it. We keep measuring ourselves against impossible standards and then wondering why we feel like we’re failing.
So today, we’re breaking this down. We’re talking about:
✅ Why so many of us feel like we’re not enough (hint: it’s not your fault)
✅ The sneaky ways social media, society, and generational patterns mess with our heads
✅ What actually makes a good mom (spoiler: it’s not what you think)
✅ How to drop the guilt and start believing you’re already doing enough
✅ Why so many of us feel like we’re not enough (hint: it’s not your fault)
✅ The sneaky ways social media, society, and generational patterns mess with our heads
✅ What actually makes a good mom (spoiler: it’s not what you think)
✅ How to drop the guilt and start believing you’re already doing enough
Let’s get into it.
Why Do Moms Always Feel Like They’re Failing?
I don’t know a single mom who hasn’t, at some point, wondered:
"Am I doing enough? Am I good enough?"
And the answer is almost always YES, you are.
But we’ve been conditioned to believe otherwise.
1. We Were Raised to Believe Motherhood = Martyrdom
For generations, moms were expected to put everyone else first. Be selfless. Sacrifice. Never complain.
Maybe your mom did everything and never asked for help, so now you feel guilty when you even think about taking a break.
Or maybe your mom struggled, and you promised yourself you’d do better—but now you’re drowning in the pressure of trying to be everything for your kids.
Either way, we inherited this idea that being a “good mom” means running yourself into the ground.
Newsflash: That’s not it.
2. Social Media is a Highlight Reel (And It’s Messing With Your Head)
We know Instagram isn’t real life, but that doesn’t stop us from falling into the comparison trap.
We see moms who:
- Pack gourmet lunches with smiley-face fruit art
- Keep a spotless house while homeschooling four kids
- Plan Pinterest-worthy birthday parties with matching outfits for the whole family
Meanwhile, we’re over here hoping our kids don’t notice we forgot it was Pajama Day at school.
Listen—those perfectly curated feeds? They’re not the full picture. No one is showing their meltdowns (theirs or their kids’). No one is posting their laundry piles, their late-night cries in the bathroom, or the moments when they feel like they’re barely holding it together.
Just because you don’t see the struggle doesn’t mean it’s not there.
3. The ‘Do It All’ Culture is a Lie
Somewhere along the way, “good moms” became synonymous with superhuman.
We’re expected to:
- Work (but not too much, or we’re “neglecting” our kids)
- Stay home (but not lose ourselves in the process)
- Be fully present 24/7 (but also prioritize self-care)
- Have a clean house (but not stress about it)
- Make time for friends, partners, workouts, mental health…
It’s literally impossible to meet all these expectations at once. So we always feel like we’re failing.
But the truth?
You don’t have to do it all to be a good mom. You just have to love your kids and do your best.
So… What Actually Makes a Good Mom?
Let’s break it down.
A good mom is not the one who:
❌ Has endless patience
❌ Never yells or gets overwhelmed
❌ Bakes homemade everything
❌ Keeps a perfectly clean home
❌ Sacrifices herself at all costs
❌ Has endless patience
❌ Never yells or gets overwhelmed
❌ Bakes homemade everything
❌ Keeps a perfectly clean home
❌ Sacrifices herself at all costs
A good mom is the one who:
✅ Loves her kids, even on the hard days
✅ Shows them that mistakes are part of life
✅ Creates a home where they feel safe (not necessarily spotless)
✅ Apologizes when she messes up
✅ Models self-love, boundaries, and resilience
✅ Loves her kids, even on the hard days
✅ Shows them that mistakes are part of life
✅ Creates a home where they feel safe (not necessarily spotless)
✅ Apologizes when she messes up
✅ Models self-love, boundaries, and resilience
Notice the difference?
It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being real.
Your kids don’t need a mom who never struggles. They need a mom who shows them how to navigate struggle with grace.
They don’t need a mom who’s always present. They need a mom who teaches them that balance matters.
And they definitely don’t need a mom who loses herself in motherhood. They need a mom who shows them what it looks like to value yourself, too.
How to Finally Drop the Mom Guilt (For Real)
Alright, now that we’ve shattered the ‘perfect mom’ myth, how do we actually feel like we’re enough?
1. Change How You Measure ‘Success’
Instead of judging yourself by what you got done today, ask:
- Did my kids feel loved?
- Did I show up in the best way I could today?
- Am I treating myself with the same kindness I’d want for my kids?
Your worth is not measured in productivity. It’s in presence.
2. Stop Apologizing for Being Human
Did you snap at your kids today? Lose your patience? Have a moment where you wanted to scream into a pillow?
Welcome to motherhood.
You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be willing to grow, repair, and keep going.
3. Give Yourself the Same Grace You Give Your Kids
If your child made a mistake, would you tell them they failed? That they’re not enough?
Of course not.
So why do you talk to yourself that way?
Motherhood is a learning curve. You’re allowed to be a work in progress.
Final Thoughts: You’re Already Enough
So here’s what I need you to take from this:
You don’t have to be the Pinterest mom. You don’t have to be the “cool” mom. You don’t have to be the patient mom.
You just have to be you.
Your kids don’t need a perfect mom. They need a mom who loves them and keeps trying.
And guess what? That’s exactly who you already are.
So the next time you start wondering if you’re enough, remind yourself: I already am.
Let’s Keep the Conversation Going!
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Challenging the myth of perfection in motherhood, particularly concerning postpartum anxiety among high-achieving women, is essential for fostering a supportive and compassionate environment for new mothers. Motherhood is often romanticized as an utterly joyful and fulfilling experience, yet many women, especially those familiar with high levels of career success, face unique pressures and mental health challenges. By identifying the signs of postpartum anxiety and understanding the role of societal expectations, women can navigate this demanding period with more grace and support. This discussion explores the complexities of perinatal mental health, examines strategies for coping with parenting stress, and provides insights into building resilience and support networks for new mothers. Our objective is to motivate personal growth and empower mothers to embark on their journey with confidence and optimism.
Understanding Postpartum Anxiety
Defining Postpartum Versus Regular Anxiety
Postpartum anxiety, often eclipsed by postpartum depression, is a significant concern for new mothers, particularly high-achieving women. Unlike regular anxiety, postpartum anxiety arises during pregnancy or after childbirth and may manifest new or exacerbate existing anxiety conditions. Its symptoms mirror regular anxiety, including excessive worry, restlessness, and physical symptoms like a racing heart. However, postpartum anxiety is specifically linked to concerns about the baby's health, the mother's caregiving abilities, and other motherhood-related stressors. Regular anxiety can stem from various unrelated stressors and isn’t confined to a particular life event. Understanding these distinctions is vital for acknowledging postpartum anxiety as a valid and serious condition. Early recognition and intervention are essential to significantly enhance the quality of life for affected mothers, enabling them to navigate motherhood with increased ease and confidence.
Why High-Achieving Women Are Affected
High-achieving women encounter unique challenges when transitioning to motherhood, increasing their susceptibility to postpartum anxiety. These women excel in their careers and manage their lives with precision and control. Motherhood’s unpredictability and demands can disrupt this equilibrium, heightening stress and anxiety. Perfectionism, common among high achievers, can intensify feelings of inadequacy when new mothers fail to meet their own high expectations. Societal pressure to be the "perfect mom" further complicates this burden, amplifying self-doubt and worry. High-achieving women might also hesitate to seek help, fearing it could be perceived as a weakness. Recognizing these factors is essential for providing the appropriate support and resources. By acknowledging the impact of perfectionism and societal expectations, we can help these women embrace imperfection and strike a healthier balance in their new roles as mothers.
The Importance of Perinatal Mental Health
Perinatal mental health involves the emotional and psychological well-being of women during pregnancy and the postpartum period and is crucial to overall health, significantly impacting both mother and baby’s development. Without adequate attention, issues like postpartum anxiety can go unaddressed, causing long-term consequences for the entire family. Addressing perinatal mental health is vital for several reasons: it aids in the early identification and treatment of mental health conditions, reducing chronic anxiety or depression risks. Moreover, supporting mental health strengthens maternal-infant bonding, creating a nurturing environment for the child’s development. It also empowers mothers to face parenthood challenges, boosting their confidence and resilience. Raising awareness and offering resources for perinatal mental health can lead to better outcomes, ensuring new mothers receive the care and support they need during this critical time.
Personal Stories and Insight
Sonya Belletti's Journey Through Anxiety
Sonya Belletti, an ICF-certified life coach and seasoned therapist, navigated the complexities of perinatal and postpartum anxiety, often without realizing her predicament. It wasn’t until her children were around ten years old that she pieced together her experiences, recognizing the symptoms she had endured. During her pregnancies, Sonya was consumed by the demands of motherhood and career, juggling responsibilities while striving for excellence. This intense pressure manifested as hyper-control over her environment, masking underlying anxiety. Her journey highlights the importance of awareness and support networks in managing mental health. Sonya’s story underscores the power of community and professional support, demonstrating that even those who appear to have it all together can benefit from understanding and caring networks. Her experience fuels her passion for helping other mothers navigate similar challenges.
Lessons Learned from Overcoming Anxiety
Sonya Belletti’s journey through postpartum anxiety imparts valuable lessons that resonate with many mothers facing similar challenges. A key takeaway is recognizing and accepting that it’s okay not to be perfect. Embracing imperfections can alleviate undue pressure on mothers, fostering a more nurturing environment for both mother and child. Another lesson is the importance of community and support networks. Sonya’s experience highlights the necessity of having a strong support system, whether family, friends, or professional help, to provide guidance and a space to express emotions without judgment. Her story also underscores the importance of self-awareness and seeking help when necessary. Understanding that mental health is as crucial as physical health encourages mothers to prioritize their well-being. Through this journey, Sonya learned to balance her roles and embrace motherhood with greater confidence and resilience.
The Role of Support Networks in Healing
Support networks play a vital role in the healing journey for mothers experiencing postpartum anxiety. For many, like Sonya Belletti, these networks are a lifeline, offering emotional support, practical help, and a sense of community. Being surrounded by understanding individuals can alleviate feelings of isolation and self-doubt often associated with postpartum anxiety. Family members, friends, and professional support groups create a nurturing environment where mothers feel safe to express vulnerabilities and seek advice. These networks are also crucial in recognizing signs of anxiety that may go unnoticed by the individual herself, facilitating early intervention and support. Additionally, professional resources, such as therapists and support groups, offer specialized guidance tailored to perinatal mental health. By engaging with a support network, mothers can share experiences, gain insights from others who have faced similar challenges, and build resilience. Ultimately, these connections empower mothers to navigate motherhood with greater confidence and well-being.
Breaking Down Societal Expectations
The Myth of the Perfect Mom
The myth of the perfect mom is a pervasive societal expectation that places undue pressure on new mothers, contributing to anxiety and stress. This myth suggests that mothers must excel in all aspects—nurturing children, managing households, and maintaining careers—all with effortless grace. Such unrealistic standards can lead to feelings of inadequacy and guilt when mothers inevitably fall short. In reality, perfection in motherhood is unattainable and unnecessary. Each mother’s journey is unique, and the notion of a perfect mom overlooks the diverse experiences and challenges each woman faces. Embracing imperfection allows mothers to focus on what truly matters: the well-being and happiness of their families. By rejecting societal pressures and setting realistic expectations, mothers can foster a healthier and more supportive environment for themselves and their children. It’s time to celebrate the beauty of authenticity in motherhood, where love and connection outweigh the pursuit of perfection.
The Impact of Societal Pressures
Societal pressures significantly impact new mothers, often exacerbating postpartum anxiety and stress. These pressures manifest through media portrayals of idyllic family life and unsolicited advice from well-meaning relatives. High-achieving women, in particular, may feel these expectations more acutely, as they are used to meeting and exceeding standards in their professional lives. The transition to motherhood, however, is fraught with unpredictability and challenges that don’t always align with these norms. Such pressures can lead to feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and self-doubt as mothers struggle to conform to unrealistic ideals. This relentless pursuit of perfection can overshadow the joys of motherhood, preventing women from fully embracing their new roles. Recognizing and addressing these societal pressures is crucial for new mothers to cultivate healthy self-expectations and develop a supportive network that values authenticity and well-being over perfection.
Empowering Women to Share Their Stories
Empowering women to share their stories is a powerful tool in dismantling societal expectations and fostering a supportive community for mothers. By openly discussing their experiences, women can challenge the unrealistic ideals of motherhood and create a more authentic narrative. Sharing stories helps normalize the struggles many face, validating feelings and reducing stigma around postpartum anxiety and mental health challenges. It also allows mothers to connect, learn from each other, and build resilience through shared experiences. Platforms that encourage storytelling—such as support groups, blogs, and social media communities—provide safe spaces for women to express themselves without judgment. These narratives can inspire others to seek help, foster empathy, and initiate meaningful conversations about the realities of motherhood. By embracing vulnerability and honesty, women can redefine what it means to be a mother, focusing on personal growth and well-being rather than unattainable perfection.
Navigating Work-Life Balance
Strategies for High-Performing Women
For high-performing women, balancing career demands and motherhood can be particularly challenging. However, implementing effective strategies can help manage these pressures and promote a healthier work-life balance. Prioritizing tasks is essential: identify the most critical tasks and delegate or defer less urgent ones. Setting clear boundaries between work and home life can minimize stress, allowing mothers to be fully present in each role. Embracing flexibility, such as remote work or flexible hours, can also alleviate daily pressures. Additionally, seeking support from mentors or peers familiar with the challenges of high-achieving women can provide valuable insights and encouragement. Integrating self-care into daily routines, whether through exercise, mindfulness, or simply taking time to unwind, is crucial. By acknowledging their limits and practicing self-compassion, high-performing women can maintain professional success while nurturing their well-being and family life, creating a fulfilling and sustainable balance.
Communicating Needs in the Workplace
Effectively communicating needs in the workplace is crucial for mothers striving to achieve a work-life balance. Open dialogue with employers about family responsibilities can foster understanding and lead to supportive arrangements. When discussing needs, presenting clear, realistic solutions that accommodate both personal and professional obligations is helpful. This might involve negotiating flexible work hours, remote work options, or adjusting project deadlines. Transparency about constraints and priorities ensures that colleagues and supervisors are aware of any limitations, reducing the potential for misunderstandings. Establishing these boundaries aids in stress management and demonstrates a commitment to both roles. Additionally, seeking mentorship from other working mothers can provide guidance and strategies for navigating workplace challenges. By advocating for their needs, mothers can create a more inclusive work environment that respects and supports their dual roles, ultimately contributing to their success and well-being both at home and at work.
Building Resilience and Healthy Coping Mechanisms
Building resilience and developing healthy coping mechanisms are vital for managing the complexities of work-life balance. Mindfulness practices such as meditation or deep breathing exercises can help manage stress and maintain focus. Regular physical activity is an effective way to boost mental and emotional resilience, promoting physical health and providing a constructive outlet for stress. Journaling can offer a space to process emotions and reflect on daily experiences. Setting aside time for hobbies and activities that bring joy can rejuvenate the mind and enhance overall well-being. Cultivating a supportive network of friends, family, and colleagues provides emotional support and practical advice. Engaging in regular self-reflection helps identify personal strengths and areas for growth, boosting confidence. By integrating these strategies into daily routines, women can strengthen their resilience, enabling them to navigate the demands of work and family life with greater ease and fulfillment.
Supporting New Mothers
How Partners Can Provide Support
Partners play a crucial role in supporting new mothers through the challenges of postpartum anxiety and the transition into motherhood. Being an empathetic listener is one of the most vital ways partners can help, providing a safe space for mothers to express their feelings and concerns without fear of judgment. Active involvement in daily tasks, such as sharing childcare duties and household responsibilities, can significantly reduce the burden on new mothers, allowing them to focus on their well-being. Partners should also encourage and facilitate time for self-care, whether it’s taking a walk, catching up on rest, or pursuing hobbies. Additionally, partners can aid by being informed about postpartum mental health and recognizing signs of anxiety, ensuring mothers receive the appropriate support when needed. By demonstrating patience, understanding, and a willingness to share the load, partners can create a nurturing environment that fosters recovery and strengthens the family bond.
Creating a Supportive Environment
Creating a supportive environment for new mothers involves fostering an atmosphere where they feel valued, understood, and assisted in their parenting journey. Family and friends can contribute by offering practical help, such as preparing meals, assisting with childcare, or running errands. This eases the daily burden, allowing mothers more time to focus on self-care and bonding with their baby. Emotional support is equally important; providing encouragement and reassurance can help mothers feel more confident in their new roles. Open communication, where mothers can voice their needs and concerns, is essential for tailoring support to their specific requirements. Workplaces can also play a part by offering flexible work arrangements and understanding parental leave policies, ensuring mothers can balance professional duties with family life. Community resources, such as parenting groups and mental health support services, provide additional layers of support, helping mothers connect with others experiencing similar challenges and reducing feelings of isolation.
Resources and Communities for New Mothers
Access to resources and communities provides invaluable support for new mothers navigating early parenthood challenges. Online forums and social media groups offer platforms for mothers to share experiences, seek advice, and find comfort knowing they’re not alone. Many communities cater to specific needs, such as postpartum anxiety, breastfeeding, or parenting multiples, ensuring tailored support. Local support groups provide face-to-face interaction, fostering a sense of community and offering opportunities for friendships with other mothers in similar situations. Healthcare providers often offer resources, including counseling services and parenting workshops, to assist new parents. Organizations like Postpartum Support International offer helplines and directories to connect mothers with mental health professionals specializing in perinatal care. Libraries and community centers may host parenting classes and family activities, providing educational resources and social interaction. These resources collectively empower mothers to access the support they need, promoting well-being and confidence in their parenting journey.
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Let’s talk motherhood. We all know it's packed with ups and downs, right? But sometimes, that sneaky little voice in your head pushes you to reach for an impossible level of perfection. And who really needs that pressure? This New Year, let’s try something new—more joy, less stress. Imagine giving a nod to what I like to call the B+ Parenting style. It’s all about showing up with pure love and consistency instead of chasing flawlessness. Curious how letting go of those unrealistic expectations can bring more happiness to your mom life? Let’s take a stroll down this path together, and discover ways to craft a more balanced and fulfilling family experience. Ready to jump into a journey that’ll empower you and create a loving environment for you and your kiddos? Let's goooo!
Embracing the Beauty in Imperfection
The Pressure to Be Perfect
We’ve all felt it, haven’t we? The relentless pressure from all corners—ESPECIALLY social media—to be that mom who has it all figured out. Perfect house, perfectly dressed kids, and those gourmet meals. Honestly, it's freaking exhausting, and it’s high time we kick those unattainable standards to the curb. Some time ago, psychologist Donald Winnicott gave us the concept of "good enough parenting."
Basically, it’s saying perfection doesn’t help raise happy, healthy kids. Instead, our little ones just need us to be there, imperfect but constant. Let’s face it—aiming for flawlessness is a surefire way to burn out and emotionally crash. Embracing our imperfections? That's what truly lets us focus on the happy, heartwarming moments that come with simply being present for our children.
Discovering B+ Parenting
What if good enough was more than enough? Enter B+ Parenting! It's a little mental jujitsu that ditches the pursuit of perfect and embraces love, effort, and being there. Striving for that top-tier A+ can ramp up stress levels big time. B's, on the other hand, celebrate the times you meet your child’s needs—more often than not. Let’s get real: Kids don’t thrive on perfect parenting—they need our emotional availability. This mindset allows room for learning and growing from our slip-ups—because, seriously, who doesn’t make mistakes? By letting go and opting for authenticity, we nurture a calming home atmosphere. It’s not just good vibes for you—it’s teaching your kids to embrace life’s messiness and challenges head-on.
The Gifts of Letting Go
Releasing the shackles of perfectionism is like a breath of fresh air—it’s what you deserve and what lights up your mom life. When you stop being so hard on yourself, you make space for raw joy and connection. It's more than feeling good. It's about showing your kids that mess-ups aren’t just okay—they’re part of life’s playbook for growth. Your vibe changes, stress levels drop, and your home feels lighter and more connected. It nurtures self-worth in your little ones and shows them that authenticity trumps all. By oozing acceptance and openness, you're building a fortress of support and fostering deeper family bonds. It’s a recipe for a blissful, family space where happiness trumps any quest for flawless optics.
Embracing Everyday Joy
Redefining Motherhood: It's a Relationship
Let’s reframe this script on motherhood. See it not as a series of chores, but as a nurturing relationship. This tweak in perception nudges you to bond and connect in the everyday moments. Routines are no longer a checklist—they’re golden opportunities to laugh and learn together. Envision each ordinary interaction as a cornerstone to building emotional intelligence and resilience. It’s rooted in being there, reveling in the magic of tiny discoveries, and soaking in the joy of just being mom. When the focus shifts to relationship building instead of task managing, you enrich your parenting journey, one memorable moment at a time.
Simple Steps to Spark Joy Daily
You don’t need grand gestures to light up your days. Joy is found in the small, simple acts that bring smiles to you and your child. Maybe it’s a cozy, shared morning routine or a cherished bedtime story that becomes the highlight. Perhaps it’s those five-minute play sessions that transform the ordinary into fulfilling memories. Practicing gratitude together—wow, what a game-changer! Focusing on what we're thankful for shifts the entire mood to appreciation. Incorporating family traditions or weekly game nights can generate moments of laughter and connection that cement into cherished memories. These little slices of happiness pile up to build a fortress of family joy.
Celebrating the Little Wins
Small wins? Total game changers. Each day, focus on those little victories—spending uninterrupted time with your child, getting laundry done, or even keeping the plants alive. Celebrate them, because they count! The daily nods to those tiny moments build positive momentum. Don’t forget to take deep breaths or pauses and express appreciation whenever you hit a bump. It’s not just about calming the chaos—it’s creating an aura of peace at home. Embrace these small yet powerful acknowledgments; they’ll lift your spirits and set you up for mental vibes filled with confidence and empowerment on your parenting path.
Curating Your Support Network
Building Your Village
Life’s easier with a village, right? Creating this network is like having a safety net when navigating motherhood’s challenges. Friends, family, fellow moms, community resources—lean into these. They provide all sorts of support and camaraderie. Asking for help? It’s not surrender; it’s wisdom. Reach out, whether it’s at a local group, online boards, or community events. You’re forming a safety net of perspectives and solutions that enrich your mom life. Whether it's sharing dinners, swapping childcare duties, or just having a laugh, these connections are treasures that enhance your family's well-being.
Innovative Support Solutions
Support doesn’t have to fit into a traditional box. Host a casual coffee catch-up or playdate and mingle with other parents. Dive into workshops or classes to meet folks who vibe with your parenting style. Online groups can also be a powerhouse of advice and solidarity. Volunteering at schools or local community efforts integrates you even deeper. Consider swapping babysitting or carpool duties with other parents to lighten the load. These creative support avenues not only provide help but also enrich your mothering journey with friendship and new experiences.
The Impact of Connection
Building supportive networks isn’t just essential—it’s a lifeline. Connections bring resilience and that cozy sense of belonging. Through shared experiences and empathetic liaisons, you can shed loneliness and uplift each other through the hurdles. Embracing this community means practical help in times of need and opportunities for everyone to grow. The experiences enrich your parenting, foster friendships among children, and provide harmony at home. Simply put, these connections mark your journey, wrapping your life in a blanket of strength and joy.
Setting Joyful Goals
Creating Kind Goals
Set goals with self-compassion. It’s not just about productivity; it’s about self-care, bond-building, and growth. Identify what nurtures you—be it relaxation time, a new hobby, or emotional growth. Make self-care a top spot on your list, which makes you unshakeable for your family. Want more connection with your kids? Set a weekly date or ensure daily heart-to-heart moments. Sprinkle in goals for personal growth, too—maybe a skill to learn or a book to devour. Framing your resolutions with kindness? That's where magic happens, fueling joy while tending to you and your loved ones.
Daily HABITS for Joy
Construct daily habits to chase those compassionate goals and amp up joy. Start your day with things like journaling, prayer, or a walk. These ground your thoughts and ward off stress. Mindful moments, with deep breaths and focused attention, peppered through your day, can keep you centered. Knock off small tasks and rejoice in the wins to build up your motivation. Reflect on your day’s achievements each evening—the key is focusing on victories, no matter how tiny. This routine not only boosts your joy but models sparkling habits for your children to adopt.
Reflect and Flex
Consistent reflection and adaptability are the secret sauce for nurturing joyful resolutions. Regular check-ins let you evaluate how far you’ve come, drop misplaced expectations, and celebrate your awesomeness. Monthly reviews are a chance to adjust your sails, embracing life’s changes with open arms. Where are you thriving? What needs tweaking? Life’s unpredictable—kick rigidity to the curb, and let flexibility guide you. Adjust those goals, keep them in line with what truly brings you joy, and boom! Your resolutions remain your north star, guiding you to long-lasting happiness and well-being.
Charge Into the Future with Confidence
Embrace the Journey Ahead
Motherhood’s journey is always evolving. Each day holds an opportunity to connect deeper and grow stronger. Cherish the process and embrace lessons learned along the way. Challenges aren’t setbacks—they’re stepping stones that deepen your development. As you engage with your little ones, treasure the present, marvel at their growth, and practice self-kindness when imperfections surface. If I haven't said it enough, celebrate those tiny wins—they lay the bedrock for mom life successes. Embrace the chaos and fluidity of parenting with a heart ready for new adventures.
Every mother has her own extraordinary path, influenced by her values and experiences. Claim your individuality and the unique choices you make. The mom next door isn’t your journey. Keeping the wins close in your mind let's them remind you of your progress. Sharing your stories strengthens the bonds within your support network, inspiring others to embrace their unique stories too. Focus on your strengths and growth—it’s that vibrant, joyful environment that reflects your core values, turning your motherhood journey into an exquisite tapestry.
HEAD Into a Joy-Filled Year
Ready for an exhilarating year ahead? Picture this stretch as an opportunity to fill your motherhood adventure with laughter and love. Set intentions anchored in well-being and joy for the whole family—making room for life’s surprises. Consider fresh adventures or create traditions to enrich your family’s life and cement lasting memories. Approach every curveball as a stepping stone for growth, a lesson in life’s school. With optimism as your compass and an open heart as your guide, the year unfolds with happiness, connection, and confident navigation through motherhood.
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You ever feel like motherhood turned your world upside down? Like, you're not the same person you were before? Yep there's a word for that! It's called matrescence, and it's basically a HUGE identity shift that happens when you become a mom. Kinda like how teenagers go through those awkward years, but with way more spit-up and way less eyeliner (hopefully!).
Matrescence is like a rebirth, a total transformation that affects you on every level: physically, emotionally, and even how you see the world. It's like stepping into a whole new dimension where YOU are the main character, but also, you're responsible for these tiny humans who rely on you for everything. Talk about pressure!
This shift can be super intense because it's not just about changing diapers and singing lullabies. It's about figuring out who you are NOW, in this new role, and how to balance all the different parts of yourself. It's like trying to juggle flaming torches while riding a unicycle...on a tightrope...over a pit of alligators. (Okay, maybe not THAT intense, but you get the idea!)
My Chat with Sarah Sterling: A Fellow Mom and Parenting Coach
I recently had a heart-to-heart with Sarah Sterling, a parenting coach and mama of two who totally gets it. She shared her own experiences with matrescence, and let me tell you, it was like looking in a mirror!
Sarah's journey was full of ups and downs, just like mine. She had to deal with the NICU when her first baby was born, which is scary stuff. But with her second, she felt this amazing burst of creativity and self-discovery. It just goes to show that every motherhood experience is unique, and there's no "one size fits all" approach.
The Maternal Wall: When Motherhood Feels Like a Cage
One thing that really resonated with me was Sarah's talk about the maternal wall. It's this invisible barrier that society puts on moms, with all these expectations and limitations. It's like, "Oh, you're a mom now? Well, you can't have a career AND be a good parent. You have to choose! Or the opposite of that like you MUST do it all!"
The maternal wall can make you feel trapped, like you're losing your identity and your choices. It's like being stuck in a maze where every path leads to a dead end. But Sarah reminded me that we have the power to break down those walls and create our OWN paths.
Finding Your Voice: Speak Up, Mama!
Sarah's advice? Use your voice! Don't be afraid to speak up for what you need and want. It's easy to get caught up in taking care of everyone else, but you deserve to be heard too.
Sarah shared how she started an anonymous Twitter account to vent about the struggles of motherhood. It was her way of letting it all out, without feeling judged. And guess what? It led her to discover her passion for writing and becoming a parenting coach! So, you never know what amazing things can happen when you start using your voice.
Self-Compassion and Letting Go: The Keys to Freedom
Motherhood can be a wild ride, and it's easy to get overwhelmed. That's why self-compassion is SO important. Don't beat yourself up if things don't go perfectly. We're all just doing our best, right?
Sarah also stressed the importance of letting go. It's okay to ask for help, to delegate tasks, and to trust that others can do things their own way. It doesn't have to be perfect; it just has to get done. And when you let go of some of that control, you create space for more joy and freedom in your life.
Finding the Joy in the Journey: It's Not Just About the Destination
It's easy to get caught up in the "what's next?" of motherhood. Like, "I'll be happy when my baby sleeps through the night," or "I'll feel like myself again when they start school." But we are reminded that it's not just about the destination; it's about enjoying the journey.
Find the joy in the everyday moments, even the messy ones. Embrace the chaos, the laughter, the tears, and the triumphs. Because THIS is your life, mama, and it's happening right now.
You've Got This, Mama!
Matrescence is a journey of self-discovery, a chance to become an even stronger, more amazing version of yourself. It's not always easy, but it's SO worth it.
So, embrace the identity shift. Find your voice, practice self-compassion, and let go of the need for control. And most importantly, remember that you are not alone. We're all in this together, navigating the wild and wonderful world of motherhood.
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Becoming a Mom: It's Like, a Total Identity Shift!
You ever feel like motherhood turned your world upside down? Like, you're not the same person you were before? Yep, there's a word for that! It's called matrescence, and it's basically a HUGE identity shift that happens when you become a mom. Kinda like how teenagers go through those awkward years, but with way more spit-up and way less eyeliner (hopefully!).
Matrescence is like a rebirth, a total transformation that affects you on every level: physically, emotionally, and even how you see the world. It's like stepping into a whole new dimension where YOU are the main character, but also, you're responsible for these tiny humans who rely on you for everything. Talk about pressure!
This shift can be super intense because it's not just about changing diapers and singing lullabies. It's about figuring out who you are NOW, in this new role, and how to balance all the different parts of yourself. It's like trying to juggle flaming torches while riding a unicycle...on a tightrope...over a pit of alligators. (Okay, maybe not THAT intense, but you get the idea!)
My Chat with Sarah Sterling: A Fellow Mom and Parenting Coach
I recently had a heart-to-heart with Sarah Sterling, a parenting coach and mama of two who totally gets it. She shared her own experiences with matrescence, and let me tell you, it was like looking in a mirror!
Sarah's journey was full of ups and downs, just like mine. She had to deal with the NICU when her first baby was born, which is scary stuff. But with her second, she felt this amazing burst of creativity and self-discovery. It just goes to show that every motherhood experience is unique, and there's no "one size fits all" approach.
The Maternal Wall: When Motherhood Feels Like a Cage
One thing that really resonated with me was Sarah's talk about the maternal wall. It's this invisible barrier that society puts on moms, with all these expectations and limitations. It's like, "Oh, you're a mom now? Well, you can't have a career AND be a good parent. You have to choose! Or the opposite of that like you MUST do it all!"
The maternal wall can make you feel trapped, like you're losing your identity and your choices. It's like being stuck in a maze where every path leads to a dead end. But Sarah reminded me that we have the power to break down those walls and create our OWN paths.
Finding Your Voice: Speak Up, Mama!
Sarah's advice? Use your voice! Don't be afraid to speak up for what you need and want. It's easy to get caught up in taking care of everyone else, but you deserve to be heard too.
Sarah shared how she started an anonymous Twitter account to vent about the struggles of motherhood. It was her way of letting it all out, without feeling judged. And guess what? It led her to discover her passion for writing and becoming a parenting coach! So, you never know what amazing things can happen when you start using your voice.
Self-Compassion and Letting Go: The Keys to Freedom
Motherhood can be a wild ride, and it's easy to get overwhelmed. That's why self-compassion is SO important. Don't beat yourself up if things don't go perfectly. We're all just doing our best, right?
Sarah also stressed the importance of letting go. It's okay to ask for help, to delegate tasks, and to trust that others can do things their own way. It doesn't have to be perfect; it just has to get done. And when you let go of some of that control, you create space for more joy and freedom in your life.
Finding the Joy in the Journey: It's Not Just About the Destination
It's easy to get caught up in the "what's next?" of motherhood. Like, "I'll be happy when my baby sleeps through the night," or "I'll feel like myself again when they start school." But we are reminded that it's not just about the destination; it's about enjoying the journey.
Find the joy in the everyday moments, even the messy ones. Embrace the chaos, the laughter, the tears, and the triumphs. Because THIS is your life, mama, and it's happening right now.
You've Got This, Mama!
Matrescence is a journey of self-discovery, a chance to become an even stronger, more amazing version of yourself. It's not always easy, but it's SO worth it.
So, embrace the identity shift. Find your voice, practice self-compassion, and let go of the need for control. And most importantly, remember that you are not alone. We're all in this together, navigating the wild and wonderful world of motherhood.
Resources:
- Daring Greatly by Brene Brown
- Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
Connect with Sarah:
- Instagram: parenting presently
- Website: parentingpresently.com
